Do you ever feel pressured to be nice to people that you simply don’t like? I’m not encouraging anyone to be hostile or to harbour negative feelings about themselves or others but it is important to recognise that we do not have to like everybody. It’s an extra layer of pressure that forces us to behave in ways that are completely unauthentic. Acknowledging to yourself that you don’t like someone can encourage us to understand why we don’t like that particular individual. Too often the problem is that they remind us at some deep, uncomfortable level of ourselves! Understanding why we don’t like certain individuals can help us move beyond the habit of judgement and learn to be around people without feeling defensive, hostile or uncomfortable. Ultimately, if we learn to be comfortable with ourselves, it is much easier to be comfortable around everyone else. Then you don’t have to pretend at all.