Injustice can cause great distress and a personal injustice can be particularly painful. But when we find ourselves on the receiving end of destructive behaviour, we have the possibility to learn much about the motives, thoughts and feelings that lie behind these events. The challenge in these situations is to distance ourselves from our initial reaction. When we no longer take these events personally, we can understand more easily why people choose to behave in a destructive or negative manner. The injustice may still exist but we have learned to distance ourselves from the area of concern and to see the situation more clearly. We may feel less sorry for ourselves and extend a measure of understanding towards those who are still prisoners of their fear.